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Little Secrets To Being Happy

“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” — Frederick Koenig

Have you ever wondered how some people seem to be genuinely happy and wanted to know their secret?  Well, let me let you in on that little secret:  It’s a mindset and a matter of attitude.  Apply some or all of the following suggestions in your daily life and you will be well on your way to experiencing happiness from within.

HOW DO I BECOME A HAPPY PERSON?

1.  Are you ready for this one?  YOU CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY!  Most of the time people can choose what they want to be.  So why not choose to be happy?

2.  Practice random acts of kindness.  Little things ….. help somebody to cross the street, open the door for somebody, pay a compliment, visit an elderly neighbor ….. and don’t expect anything in return.  You will notice that when doing things for others, it will not only make you feel good, but it will come back to you one way or another and good things will happen in your life!

3.  Show your love, affection and appreciation to people around you.  They will usually respond in kind.

4.  Remove yourself from toxic environments as much as possible, whether it’s a job situation, a bad relationship, or a negative person who always seems to drag you down.  If it doesn’t feel good, it’s probably not good for you.

5.  Exercise ….. regularly.  Try to find an exercise that is fun for you to do.  Whether it is playing basketball with your kids, jogging in the park, taking walks, working out in a gym — it doesn’t matter what — just do it!  Besides the obvious positive effect on your physical well being, regular exercise also affects how you feel.  During physical activity, the body releases endorphins (the body’s natural painkiller) and when that happens, you experience feeling positive, relaxed and happy.  By the way — the same is true when receiving a massage or having sex.    🙂

6.  LAUGH OFTEN!

7.  Keep an open mind and learn new things.  One key to happiness is personal growth.  And how much fun it is to learn and explore new things!

8.  Find your true calling in life.  It seems to me that people who follow their passion and work in a job, have a business, or are in the creative field, reflecting their passion, are generally happy people.  If you would ask them about their work, they very likely will tell you that they don’t look at it as work because they like what they do and are passionate about it ….. and very often rewards follow.

FIVE SIMPLE RULES TO BEING HAPPY
*  Free your heart of hatred
*  Free your mind from worries
*  Live simply
*  Give more
*  Expect less

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Fit, Sexy and Happy At Any Age!

Has this ever happened to you?  Somebody enters the room and you think to yourself ‘Wow!  What a presence that person has!’  And you notice how other people stop what they’re doing to look at the person as well.  If you would ask them, most people probably couldn’t tell you why exactly he or she draws all this attention.  Often they don’t even fit the stereotypical ‘beauty standard,’ and yet, there is something about them that makes them sexy and attractive to other people.  It almost feels like there is an aura around them.  What exactly is going on here?

Well, let me tell you a little secret:  It’s a mindset.  People who feel comfortable with themselves are generally happy and radiate positive energy wherever they go.  That in turn is being picked up by others and makes that person attractive, even sexy to them.  From a confident walk, to sparkling eyes, to a radiant smile, you can tell they feel good about themselves and it shows.

George Clooney and Queen Latifah are perfect examples for what I just described.  When they show up, people take notice.  You just know they are self-confident and like themselves, have a positive attitude, laugh often and enjoy life, and that makes them very attractive and sexy.

Now, you also can be fit, sexy and happy, no matter what age you are.  As I mentioned, it’s a mindset and a matter of attitude, and you can achieve it by developing a healthy lifestyle, getting in shape with a fit body, de-stressing and simplifying your life, and creating a positive mindset.  And when you do, you will find the  FIT, SEXY AND HAPPY  person that is already inside you just waiting to be awakened.  Visit my website   www.FitwithAndrea.com   and find out how.   🙂

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The Connection: Mind, Body and Soul

Sometimes, when giving somebody with very tense neck and shoulder muscles a massage, I joke around, telling them that I can see names of people engraved in those tense muscles, and that usually serves as an icebreaker or provides for a light moment.  Of course, there is some truth to it.  Because body and mind are interconnected, stress of any kind (involving people and/or circumstances), especially over an extended period of time, can influence our overall health tremendously in a negative way.  Just think about various statistics showing upward of 80% of health problems being stress related.  Imagine by how much that number can be reduced once we know how to decrease stress in our lives and discover ways to deal with stress that will work for us!

You will find various suggestions and tools on that subject when navigating through my website   www.FitwithAndrea.com.   Try out the approaches appealing to you and use the method(s) of stress relief that works for you.  The key to achieving and then maintaining good health is a comprehensive approach.  It includes healthy lifestyle choices, a healthy diet, self-responsibility for your wellness, regular physical activity, and a positive mental attitude and mindset.

Research has shown that negative emotions of fear, frustration, blame, hate and anger cause disorder in the autonomic nervous system (ANS) and can have a negative effect on your immune system.  On the other hand, your immune system can receive a boost and the efficiency of your heart can be increased by positive emotions of joy, appreciation, care, compassion and love.  On matters of the heart, studies have shown that in general, being in a loving relationship of any kind, especially in happy marriages, can help your heart and your overall health.  However, beware that the opposite can be true for negative and toxic relationships.

I believe the following shows the connection between mind, body and soul perfectly.  One of my first massage clients was a sixty-something, very nice gentleman to whom I gave massages on a regular basis.  I sometimes joked with him about his neck and shoulder muscles being like a “brick wall.”  After the massage, his muscles were relaxed and he felt good and was in excellent spirits.  However, when I saw him the next time, his muscles again were like a “brick wall.”  I knew from talking to him that he was retired and his personal life seemed to be okay.  So I had no idea why his muscles stayed pretty much tense most of the time, to the point where he almost couldn’t move his neck from one side to another.  Naturally, I knew that there had to be a reason for that.

And then, one day he opened up to me, telling me how he was still angry at his parents (who were deceased) for him not having had a happy childhood and always feeling like they preferred his brother over him.  When I listened to him, I could hear his anger in his voice and realized that he was still blaming his dead parents for how he felt and probably for most everything that went wrong in his life.  I thought that he most likely had never been able to enjoy life to the fullest, because he ended up blaming his parents for everything that went wrong, and therefore hardly took responsibility and didn’t feel the need to change things himself, because it was his parents’ fault.

Now, this man carried that blame with him his entire life.  And it showed in his tense neck and shoulder muscles.  After hearing his story, I paused for a moment, and then suggested to him that in order to get to a better and more balanced place, he needed to let go of these negative feelings and forgive everybody involved:  his parents, his brother and finally himself.  I told him that if I was in a situation like that, I would seek counseling.  After that we parted and I didn’t see him for some time.  But one day, out of the blue, he called to make an appointment and when working on his neck and shoulders, I noticed how much more relaxed his muscles were.  I was about to make a comment about it when he told me, “You know, I took your suggestion and talked to a counselor and I’m feeling so much better now.”

He didn’t have to tell me at all; his body had told me already.

I lost him as a regular client, because from that time on he got massages more infrequently–as he called it:  for maintenance and preventive health care only, but not out of necessity, as before.

Somehow, I felt happy losing him as a “regular” client.   🙂

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“Don’t Worry, Be Happy!”

“Realize that true happiness lies within you.  Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside.  Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving.  Reach out.  Share.  Smile.  Hug.  Happiness is a perfume you cannot put on others without getting a few drops on yourself.”      Og Mandino

  

If you belong to the group of people who tend to worry a lot about anything and everything, stop right now!  You literally can worry yourself sick.

Think about it:  The majority of the things you worry about are never going to materialize, so all the energy you are putting into it is wasted energy.  Find ways to use that energy in a positive way. 

Even if a few of the many things you worry about will actually happen, there are usually circumstances out of your control, especially if they involve other people.  Instead, focus on what you have control over, and that is basically limited to yourself and your behavior.

But what do you do if you find yourself being a constant “worrier?”  Here are two practical tips:

1.  CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK
2.  CHANGE WHAT YOU DO

In order to change the way you think, you have to change your mindset from negative to positive.  Let’s say you are worried that if you can’t meet a deadline or perform a job task, it will have an adverse effect on your performance review or your promotion prospects, or you fear you may even lose your job.  To change this negative into a positive thought, why not tell yourself this:  I have worked for this company very hard for a long time and they appreciate my effort, so things will be okay, no matter what.

If on the other hand you find yourself worrying a lot about, for example, not being able to pass a test and the reason for your worry is that you haven’t prepared yourself enough, change what you do!  Prepare yourself to the point where you can tell yourself that you have done everything in your power to pass it and feel comfortable going into the test, telling yourself that failure therefore is not an option.

Try it, it works!

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Find Your True Calling In Life

As I was reading an article about people who leave their stressful jobs and lives behind and find happiness and joy in more rewarding and less stressful careers, I couldn’t help but thinking back to one of my clients.  I remember exactly the very first massage appointment with Tom.  His neck was such a mess that he almost couldn’t move his head from one side to the other and he told me that he experienced regular horrible headaches.  While working on his tense muscles, I tried to figure out what might have caused his neck being in such bad shape.  And it only took a minute until we figured it out.  As a stock broker, he spent most of his day at the computer and on the phone at the same time.  So naturally, I asked him whether he had a headset which he said he did not.  So, whenever he was on the phone and computer at the same time (which was a lot), he was just basically holding the phone between his chin and neck.  As soon as he told me that, he realized himself that that was most likely the cause for his horrible neck condition.  Well, it only took a few weeks after he started using a headset until his neck was okay and the headache had disappeared.  While we were talking a little about his job, it was also obvious to me that he was under constant stress and didn’t seem to particularly like it.

It was only a few months later when he told me that he had decided to leave behind his stressful job and life and move away with his family to take on a teaching position, something he always wanted to do.  “I finally will be able to enjoy life!”  And I remember his smile and his sparkling eyes when saying that.  It was a big step because it would mean a lot less money, but judging from his new found happiness, that didn’t seem all that important.   🙂

I always thought that people who follow their passion and work in a job, have a business, or are in the creative field, reflecting their passion, are generally happy people.  If you would ask them about their work, they very likely will tell you that they don’t look at it as work because they like what they do and are passionate about it–And very often rewards follow.

Tom found his true calling in life and decided to make that transition.  And I was very happy to hear that he had no regrets and really enjoyed life to the fullest, probably for the first time.

Life Is Too Short–So Kiss Slowly,
Laugh Insanely, Love Truly,
And Live With Passion.

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Like A Virgin — Massaged For The Very First Time :-)

So, somebody thought it was a good idea to give you a gift certificate for a massage with the words “Oh, you’re just going to love it!”  Did they realize that you’re a “massage virgin?”  That you never had a massage before?  And that you’re actually quite anxious about the prospect of getting one?  Well, let me tell you:  You’re in for a treat.  Let me introduce you to

“THE MAGIC OF MASSAGE”

Getting a massage used to be reserved mainly for affluent people.  Over the past few years however, it has become more and more mainstream as people are learning about the benefits of massage and are interested in looking for alternatives in dealing with aches and pains and to get relief from stress.

Even though massage has risen in popularity in the United States, only a fraction of the US population ever experiences how wonderful it feels getting a massage.  Compare that with other parts of the world where massage and other alternative therapies are very common and even part of preventive health care, and you can see that there is room for growth.  Receiving a good therapeutic massage can do wonders for the body and soul.  Some people get regular massages to deal with everyday stress, manifesting itself often in tight neck and shoulder muscles.  Experts estimate that stress is a major contributor in more than eighty percent of health concerns.  There is also something to be said about the power of the human touch, and statistics have shown that when, for example, babies born prematurely were given gentle massages, they gained weight faster and were able to leave the hospital earlier.  After a massage, people feel generally positive, relaxed, even happy.

Massage is a perfect elixir for good health, but it can also provide an integration of body and mind.  By producing a meditative state or heightened awareness of living in the present moment, massage can provide emotional and spiritual balance, bringing with it true relaxation and peace.  The physical benefits of massage can range from improved circulation, release of endorphins (the body’s natural pain killer), decreased depression and anxiety, help with insomnia, lowering blood pressure, pain relief (like migraine or back pain), to helping heal injured muscles faster.

Here are a few helpful tips to make your first massage an enjoyable experience:  A good massage therapist will apply just the right amount of pressure to ensure you have a relaxing, yet at the same time effective massage.  However, feel free to let the therapist know to increase or decrease pressure for your maximum benefit.  You will notice that your body is covered up with a sheet and only the areas being worked on at any given time will be undraped.  Most therapists will us scented oil which can have a powerful effect on your mood, and depending on the scent, can make the massage either more relaxing or invigorating for you.  After receiving a massage you should always drink a lot of water to flush out toxins that have been released during the massage.  Especially after your first massage, you may feel a little soreness the next day, but don’t worry, if you do, it’s only temporary (don’t forget, your muscles basically got a little workout), and after the soreness disappears, you will feel very relaxed in the areas that were oh, so tight before (neck and shoulders come to mind especially).

All in all, if you’ve never had a massage, you should explore it.  There is a good possibility that you’ll actually get hooked.

On the lighter side, one comment that I get frequently from women “That felt better than having sex!”  When men comment, it’s usually “That felt almost as good as sex!”   🙂

Click on the following link to watch a funny little clip “Like A Virgin — Massaged For The Very First Time”   🙂

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fUUnyI4e5Mo

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