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Crossroads

The journey through life is made up of many different roads. Sometimes we come upon a smooth road which leads us straight to the desired destination with little or no effort at all. More often, it will be a rocky, crooked road with corners, detours, and steep uphill climbs.

And now and then we get to a crossroads, the most confusing of them all.

Most likely, we stop and look at the options, not knowing what to do. Will this road lead me to the happiness I have been longing for? What if it turns out to be the wrong decision? Only hindsight will tell. But, one thing is certain: In order to find out, you have to take the risk, and choose one path. Otherwise you will never know.

The worst outcome of all is to not make a decision, but to just stay there confused…and then thinking for the rest of your life about a risk you didn’t take.

There are no guarantees in life. There are only choices you make…  🙂


Andy Vogt is the author of
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novel ‘Secrets of a Massage
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A Weird And Wet Date :-)

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My friend M. called last night.  Like me, she belongs to the ever growing club of women who are just slightly over 29…  :-), single and happy.  Unlike me, who has given up on dating altogether, until that special person comes around the corner (and I know it when I see him…  🙂  ), she’s still trying… and sharing her weird dating experiences with me…

For the second time now, she fell into the trap of a well meaning friend telling her, “I know this really nice guy, he would be perfect for you.  You ought to go out on a date… ”  After her last experience with that particular  ‘really nice guy,’  she told me, it would definitely be quite some time until she listened to any friends again. Well, here we are, just a few weeks later…

Mr. Nice Guy turned out to be a bit of a crazy…  In their very first phone conversation, he joked with her,  “The last time I was in a woman, was two years ago, when visiting the  ‘Statue of Liberty,’ “… haha…  Okay, I have a good sense of humor, and if you know somebody a little better, and are convinced that the person would think that to be funny as well, okay…  But in the first few minutes of a phone conversation with a woman you have never even met?…  Not particularly appropriate…  🙂

When she told me about it, I felt her hesitating already, even going on the date. And as a friend, I just told her to be careful and to watch out for any more red flags.  So, I guess, curiosity got the best of her, and she went on the date, which ended up ordering in Thai food while sipping on a glass of wine in his condo.  It didn’t take but a few minutes, she may have still been enjoying the spicy food, when Mr. Statue of Liberty decided to spice things up himself, and basically threw himself at her, trying to kiss her.  That attempt ended up licking her entire face, ears and neck.  I could hear in her voice that she didn’t particularly care for all that wet attention…  :-).  Naturally, I asked her, if she had told him, that she had already taken a shower that day, so no need for him to lick her clean…  🙂

Anyway, after another few minutes of him telling her that he thought they’d be married within a year, she decided, it was time to leave… and you guessed it… take a shower…  🙂

Now my question is…  I can see that licking can be a very erotic part of making love, something I certainly enjoy… :-), but on the first date… after a few minutes… all over your face… ???  Do men really believe that to be a turn on?  I guess, some woman at some point may have told him that she liked it, and now he thinks every woman likes it, and may have decided to introduce himself that way… I don’t know…  🙂

Oh, you guessed it…  No second date for Mr. Nice Guy…  I guess, he’ll have to visit the  ‘Statue of Liberty’  again…  🙂

I still know why I’m not dating…  🙂

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When Passion Takes Over …..

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I don’t know about you…  but to me, passion is the essence of life.  If you don’t have passion for life, for the people around you, and for what you do, what is there really to live for?  It would be a boring life indeed!  As for myself, the following has become my guiding light

Life Is Too Short–So Kiss Slowly,
Laugh Insanely, Love Truly,
And Live With Passion

But what do you do when that very same passion takes over from time to time, and be truthful now, we’ve all had these moments  (some more than others   🙂  ), when we did or said something which we regretted instantly, the very moment we opened our mouths, or sent a letter.  Unfortunately, once it’s said, written, done, it can’t be reversed.  And then the passion that is usually an asset in your life, all of a sudden becomes a big negative, and you probably wish, at least for that moment, to be just a little more dispassionate…   :-).

Well, I’m a firm believer in the notion that things usually turn out the way they are supposed to.  We may not realize it at the time when something happens, why it happened, but as the saying goes…  ‘Everything happens for a reason.’

You may have been in a situation where you lost your job, and at the time, that was very difficult to deal with, and may have caused you hardship for awhile, but a lot of times, a new, better job or a career change for the better, may be just around the corner.  The same is true for so many other instances.

Then again, if it involves other people, and you’ve done or said something hurtful in the heat of passion, trying to sabotage a wonderful friendship or special love, and then you don’t have any way to take it back, it pretty much depends on the other person and the relationship the two of you have.  Here also, if it’s supposed to be, it will be.  And if not, it was never meant to be to begin with, and it was good that it happened, sparing you future headaches and heartaches.

If you found that special person who cares about you, gives you goose bumps, makes your heart beat faster, and makes you laugh, don’t let pride get in the way, no matter what happened!  Don’t let anything, be it a misunderstanding, argument, or anything else, become too important, believing you can’t get over it. Yes, you can…  If you really care about that person, it’s always worth it…

Because you may end up asking yourself for the rest of your life  ‘What if… he/she was the one?’  Believe me, you will…

Here’s another little saying

NEVER  give  up
On  someone  you  can’t
Go  a  day  without
Thinking  about

Just some food for thought…  Life is too short…     🙂

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Just Walk Away …..

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I want to use the much publicized altercation between Chris Brown and Rihanna as a reference to make a larger point.

Abuse, be it physical, mental or sexual, can happen with both, the female or male being the abuser.  The most likely scenario when it comes to physical abuse, is with the male being the abuser.  Unfortunately, abusive situations between teenage boyfriends and girlfriends are all too common, and if no intervention takes place, often continue into adulthood.  As abusive relationships are often complicated, the remedies on how to deal with them are not.

JUST  WALK  AWAY …..

If you are being abused by your partner, just walk away…literally…  End the relationship immediately!  Once the other person has crossed that line and has put his hands on you, it’s pretty much a preview of things to come.  It usually gets worse if you stay in the relationship and will cause you many heartaches, headaches and physical pain.  Sometimes it may even end in death…  You deserve better!  And no, he doesn’t love you, if he hurts you.  Love doesn’t hurt…  Abuse is a form of control, not love!  So, get out!!  But prepare yourself for that event, especially if it’s a very violent situation, as statistics have shown that the most dangerous time is at the time of separation.

If you have violent tendencies and either have abused your partner or are afraid that you may,

JUST  WALK  AWAY …..

Whenever you find yourself in a situation/fight/argument with your partner and feel an urge of putting your hands on her, just walk away…get out of the house, take a walk, calm down, stay somewhere else overnight if you need to, and don’t go back until your anger is gone and you have calmed down.  As a man, you may not like the idea of seeking counseling, but there are effective ways to deal with anger management, so that might be something to consider, before literally hurting somebody.  And no, she didn’t make you do it, because she did this, or said that…..  There is  NO  excuse for putting your hands on her, rather than just airing things out in a normal conversation/argument.  If you and your partner fight often and can’t come to terms with each other, maybe that’s a sign that you really shouldn’t be together…Just a thought…

But  NOTHING, absolutely  NOTHING  ever excuses violence …..

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Man With A Mission :-)

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So I went out with my friend M. for a couple, make that three drinks…, last night, trying to solve the world’s problems again in about two hours…  🙂

As I don’t date (by choice  🙂  ), I live vicariously through her dating experiences…and sometimes, that’s just not a pretty picture.  Thinking about it, that’s probably one of the reasons I leave the soap opera of dating to others…  Well, we’ve had the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly when it comes to the men she’s been out with.  But I don’t think I laughed as hard before as I did last night, when she shared her latest dating experience with me.  K., also known as  ‘Man with a mission’  🙂 asked her out to dinner, and, according to her, it was very nice, wonderful conversation, chemistry, quite the gentleman.  So she happily agreed to a second date …

Well, that one went even better.  They went to one of the local wineries for a wine tasting and had a very enjoyable evening.  For the third date he wanted to come to her house (for the first time) to pick her up and as she felt quite comfortable with K., she agreed.  Right at eight, the doorbell rang and she opened the door to let him in.  But I don’t think she will forget the picture she was staring at for quite some time… There he was, smiling  at her with his pillow under his arm!  Now mind you, up to this point they had barely kissed, definitely no sex involved… How does it go?  A picture speaks a thousand words… Well, this picture certainly spoke volumes, and he didn’t have to say anything…

Now, there’s something to be said to bring your own pillow if the one at your lover’s house hurts your neck, but I’d say, you should at least wait until after you had sex and slept on that pillow a few times  :-).  She thought the same…  and I’m here to report… you guessed it… no fourth date.  She thought if he would do something weird like that, there’s a good chance that other things would follow…

I know why I’m not dating…  🙂

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Single And Happy … By Choice … :-)

‘I love being married.  It’s so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.’ — Rita Rudner  🙂

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Recently, while having a little time during a bad ice storm, I was browsing through some blogs and got inspired to write this by one lady’s musings about her dating experiences which, according to her, often ended after the first date, and she was wondering why the guys ended up asking for a second date, without ever intending to even call her back.

Now, there can be many reasons for that.  The most likely to me would be that he just wasn’t that much into her, and didn’t have the heart to let her know face to face, but rather decided to leave her hanging for a few days or maybe even weeks while she was waiting for any little sign from him.  And then, only after agonizing back and forth about why he hadn’t called her back, finally realizing that it would be best to move on if she didn’t want to end up an old spinster desperately waiting for that one phone call  :-).

Now, a lot of women like myself, who are just slightly over 29  :-), and have seen the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly, when it comes to men, have arrived at a point in our lives where we are very comfortable in our own skin.  We are single and happy ….. and not dating ….. by choice.  Just don’t want to go through the soap opera of dating somebody we know darn well right from the beginning is not going to lead anywhere …..

And so we decided to leave the trials and tribulations of a first, possible second, or even third date to others, and are perfectly happy with that decision.  Been there, done that, didn’t like it, won’t do it again.  We know exactly what we want out of life and, after often neglecting to do so in our younger years, and then paying a hefty price for it, we decided to start paying attention to a man’s actions to see whether they show the love and respect we deserve, and sometimes, that’s just not a pretty picture …..

Don’t get me wrong, we love men, absolutely ….. but we also respect and love ourselves.  So, until that special person comes around the corner,  we just opt out of dating altogether and are perfectly happy with it.  Now, when that person shows up, it’s a different story ….. and we’ll know exactly when we see him …..  :-).

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